Two people were especially crucial in the conception of this project and manual--Steven
Paul Wissler, founder and executive director of the United Methodist
Taskforce on Abortion and Sexuality, and John Cardinal O'Connor. It was Cardinal
O'Connor's charitable offer to all the women of the nation to come to the New York
Archdiocese if they needed assistance carrying a child to term that set me on the search
for a way that other churches, without the resources of an archdiocese, might make a
similar though modified offer. But it was a providential meeting with Steve Wissler that
showed me a plan was already in place. Much in this manual is the direct result of Steve's
foresight and vision to give every pregnant woman a viable alternative through the local
church. Early drafts of the concept and description were faxed back and forth so often
that neither Steve nor I could possibly unravel what belongs to who. It has been a joy to
work with someone who must surely one day be recognized as one of the "pioneers"
in this movement. I have simply followed his wagon.
Handbook Section A:
Establishing a Ministry for Women in Crisis
A sheltering church is one that has made a pledge, adopted a plan,
and agreed to follow through with a proclamation. The pledge shows the
church cares for the practical and spiritual needs of women facing unplanned pregnancies.
The plan insures that churches will not be caught unprepared when a real need arises,
which is nothing less than dangerous when abortion is the other option. The proclamation
informs members and visitors of the church's willingness to help.
Many churches have informally made the pledge. If women in their congregations need
assistance to see their crisis pregnancies through to their end, they will help. But they
may not have made a proclamation to that effect, missing many opportunities to minister.
Others may have made the pledge and have even regularly proclaimed their intentions, but
they have no plan, leading to a haphazard response when a need does arise. A sheltering
church will exhibit all three--a pledge, a plan, and a proclamation.
In the many situations a pastor faces, ministering to a woman considering abortion is
surely one of the most challenging. Few counseling situations are so urgent; hesitancy or
incomplete information can result in a fatality. This is true for several reasons.
First, supporters of life offer what sounds like an unbelievably hard solution,
short-term, compared with what the abortionist offers. We are asking the woman to choose a
route that may provide embarrassment. If the pregnant woman is single, for instance, there
may be some embarrassment when her family and friends realize that she is sexually active.
Furthermore, the woman's body will be radically changed, often during a period of her life
when physical attractiveness is most important. She may also be concerned over her future
at school, at work, or with her relationship with the father. A pregnancy can complicate
all these areas. The discovery of life within the womb can seem like a "threat"
to a woman in certain difficult circumstances.
Enter the abortionist, who is able to financially profit off the woman's perceived
threat. The woman is told that her problem can be taken care of on her lunch hour. Her
body won't be changed. Nobody will know. The entire problem will go away. In the short
term, this sounds so easy, so unbelievably simple, that it becomes a very tempting
The long-tern reality, however, presents a much different picture. Long-term, the
abortionist offers only death and regret. Long-term, the church offers life and personal
growth. But many people find it difficult to think "long-term" in the midst of a
crisis. The tendency in a crisis is to act in ways that promote self-preservation. Crisis
thinking doesn't lend itself to the leisurely ideals of sacrifice, selflessness, and
Christian commitment and obedience. Crisis thinking is usually centered around, "How
can I get out of this mess?"
Women who approach the church after learning of an unplanned pregnancy need more than
hope. They need assurance that the church is willing and able to help. If the church does
not address the many fears and concerns a woman has, the life of the unborn child is
clearly threatened. When one considers the woman's inevitable guilt over the abortion and
the eventual regret, it is clear that during a crisis pregnancy the potential for evil to
flourish is immense and real.
Such an urgent and potentially tragic problem requires comprehensive answers rather
than "on the spot" treatment. If a church begins to think about how it will
respond to a crisis pregnancy only after the pregnancy is brought to its attention, it is
really playing a form of Russian roulette. The sacrifices called for on behalf of life are
so great that it is vitally important to inform women of their options and reasons for
choosing those options before they become pregnant. If the church waits until a
woman is pregnant, it is already a step behind, as the woman and/or couple will have
slipped into a "crisis mode" form of thinking, seeking a quick solution to an
To make matters even more difficult for the pastor, the abortion problem rarely occurs
in a vacuum. It is often a symptom of other, underlying needs. Crisis pregnancies are
frequently accompanied by troubled or improper relationships, family tensions, sexual
immorality, and the like. The woman is sometimes abandoned by the father of the child,
whose willingness to address the problem may be limited to paying for half of an abortion.
Interruption of school and career, family upheaval, embarrassment, and financial hardship
can all make an already difficult counseling encounter perilous.
Many pastors can provide adequate spiritual counsel, but a woman facing a crisis
pregnancy needs more than spiritual counsel. In the great tradition of historical
Christianity and the full Gospel (James 1:27), the local church should stand ready with many
practical options that will enable a woman to catty her baby to term and make appropriate
decisions for her future.
If the church can't or won't provide a better option almost immediately, another life
may be lost to the violence of abortion, and another mother will have to be healed of
The sheltering church concept is rooted in the desire to provide a biblically based,
faith-filled approach to the abortion problem. The sheltering church concept unites
Christians as they follow the example of the early Church. Though living in a pagan empire
that casually practiced abortion and often abandoned children (usually to slavery,
prostitution, or death), the early Church provided refuge for unwanted little ones and
Early Christian documents show not only the Church's firm opposition to the sin of
abortion in its moral teaching, but also the Christian imperative to rescue abandoned
children. Orphanages and foundling homes were established throughout the Christian world
in the fourth century, becoming visible symbols of Christian compassion for unwanted
In continuity with past Christian practice, the sheltering church movement seeks to
offer life to women facing difficult pregnancies, and to make this offer of life out of
Christian hospitality and love without a price tag attached. This is in sharp contrast to
the costly choice of abortion (usually cash only, and almost always up-front) being
offered to women in our culture.
Because this help is offered through the church and not through a social service
agency, the entire situation can be addressed. The church can call the father of the child
to act responsibly; if relevant, the church can offer the couple forgiveness, while
exhorting them to live a life of sexual purity; the church can approach the woman's
employer, so that the woman need not fear losing her livelihood; the church can bring
reconciliation between a daughter and her parents, to preserve and strengthen the familial
bond; the church can advise the woman and the father of the child as they make vital
decisions about the future.
The church is uniquely gifted to address the problem of abortion in such a
comprehensive way. This is more than putting a band-aid on the problem. It goes beyond
simply putting a padlock on the abortion clinic door. The sheltering church movement
addresses people, not just the process, and thereby brings about lasting, even eternal
The sheltering church movement helps individual churches cut through the complexities
presented by abortion. Pastors need not fear a difficult counseling situation with a woman
facing an unwanted pregnancy because by becoming a sheltering church, congregations will
have everything in place to provide practical, biblical alternatives under their own
If your church has limited resources, the sheltering church movement in your area
enables you to network with agencies that can provide what you cannot. Your church can
still confidently offer practical help and comprehensive resources to any woman in your
community who needs help facing a crisis pregnancy.
By becoming a sheltering church, your congregation becomes a doorway through which
women and men may enter to find the hope of new life when death seems the only way to
resolve a crisis pregnancy. The sheltering church is evangelism at its finest when it's
Most would agree that when a couple faces a crisis pregnancy, the local church is the
first place they and their families should turn. However, many young people will not turn
to the church since they believe the church is more interested in saying "no" to
abortion than in providing help in unintended pregnancies. Yet the church is God's vehicle
to carry the healing power and love of Jesus Christ to a couple that has sinned or is in
great need. If the sheltering church movement is successful, the local church will be the
first place a woman or couple facing a crisis pregnancy will turn to.
In essence, a sheltering church is simply a church that has agreed to make a pledge to
its own congregation and/or the local community, has developed a plan of action to ensure
that the pledge can be fulfilled, and is willing to proclaim, on a regular basis, the
availability of its ministry. A logo and a free offer contribute additional elements.
1. The Pledge
The sheltering church agrees to treat a crisis pregnancy as its concern, not just the
woman's or couple's problem. The sheltering church agrees to provide counsel and
provision, meeting the woman's needs so that she can carry her child to term. This pledge
does not obligate the church to remove all the consequences from people who have made
irresponsible decisions. However, with proper oversight and tough, biblical love rooted in
grace, a God-honoring solution and response to abortion and unplanned pregnancies can be
found. The church is simply pledging to respond in a manner consistent with true, biblical
love (James 1:27). At first, this pledge may be made solely to the congregation. In time,
and possibly in cooperation with other local churches, the pledge can be made to the
entire community, testifying to the powerful message of reconciliation and love in Jesus'
2. The Proclamation
A non-doctrinal proclamation from the pulpit, and in Sunday School and confirmation
classrooms, informs the congregation and community of what the sheltering church offers
and why. The following proclamation is a model suggestion, but local congregations may
choose to alter it as they see fit: "As the family of God, we are committed to
helping women in our church and community avoid abortion. Therefore, we proclaim to all
women vulnerable to this violent experience that through our sheltering church they can
receive the resources they need to avoid the violence of abortion--Free of charge if
necessary. Where the spiritual and physical destruction of abortion has occurred, we
extend Jesus Christ's forgiveness and healing to all men and women involved who have truly
repented. We call upon men to support women in childbearing and to be united in marriage
for parenting. Likewise, we encourage adoption. We commit our church to be a family to
those without mother or father, wife or husband, and we win support with time and money
those efforts that make it possible to extend the free offer of life."
3. The Plan
The danger of an unprepared, "we'll deal with it as it arises" approach to
abortion counseling has already been mentioned. The importance of written plans cannot be
stressed too much. Anyone answering the church phones should know exactly what to say and
what to do if a call comes in from a woman or couple facing an unplanned pregnancy. It is
one thing for the pastor to handle a crisis call, but is the church secretary prepared?
The entire ministry process, beginning with a phone call or word of mouth referral, should
be thought out ahead of time and written down so that every participant knows his/her
4. The Consistent Logo
A logo is displayed (preferably on church signboards, the church building, a prominent
window, and/or the church bulletin) creating awareness of the church's commitment to
helping women face crisis pregnancies. The logo is used nationally, creating greater
awareness of the church's commitment and therefore greater use of the church's offer.
5. The Free Offer
The free offer of life-saving resources is not only a part of the Christian Church's
historic witness to abandoned children, but it has the practical appeal of being a better
deal than that offered by abortionists. By making this free offer, the church is
signifying its willingness to sacrifice with the couple while encouraging them to make
biblically responsible choices. To provide many of the free offers, the church will simply
need to serve as a conduit, bringing needy women to services and organizations that are
already equipped and eager to serve.
Other aspects of being a sheltering church may include the following:
6. Locally Developed Resource Flyer
The flyer identifies abortion alternative service providers (such as crisis pregnancy
centers and maternity homes) in a particular sheltering church's area. This will aid the
pastor and the lay committee as they make various referrals.
7. Nationally Maintained, Ongoing Information Links Designed to Solve Problems and
Provide New Solutions
Sheltering churches can receive a newsletter on events and developments within the
sheltering church movement by writing to the Christian Action Council, 101 W. Broad St.,
Suite 500, Falls Church, VA 22646. By registering its interest in receiving the
newsletter, the church is not in any way affiliating with the CAC. Future plans call for a
national lifeline to help answer questions and handle urgent referrals.
Step One: Develop a resource guide
(Note: This may already have been done by a church or crisis pregnancy center in your
area. you are encouraged to contact the Christian Action Council first, or other pastors
in your area, to determine if a listing is already available.)
List the resources that are already available in your community. You can begin by first
scanning the yellow pages--look under abortion alternatives, clinics, or pregnancy
counseling. Call up those centers and ministries listed, and ask them if they know of any
other organizations providing alternatives to women facing crisis pregnancies. After
scanning the yellow pages, work by referral. Every time you get a name, ask the new party
for additional names.
The Christian Action Council has a community survey that you can use (suggested
donation is $3) to make sure you ask yourself the right questions and cover every possible
resource. In general, the survey mentions parachurch organizations, churches, clinics,
childbirth classes, food banks, governmental agencies, and many other helps. Without an
exhaustive listing, you might miss some very helpful allies.
In addition to going through the community survey, it will be helpful to visit the
local crisis pregnancy center so that you can fully understand the extent of the resources
that it offers. Interview the director and find out what is available, and what is
lacking. The CPC (Crisis Pregnancy Center) will likely serve as the cornerstone of your
sheltering church ministry. Rather than offer identical services, the church can provide
for many needs through the CPC.
After you have completed your own local search, contact other national ministries
(listed below) to determine if they have chapters in your hometown. Follow up on these
leads and again, ask for more referrals. Continue to build your list of possible
Ministries that offer help to women:
|Christian Action Council
101 W. Broad St. Suite 500
Falls Church, VA 22046
|Bethany Christian Services
901 Eastern Ave. NE
Grand Rapids, MI 49503
686 N. Broad St.
Woodbury, NJ 08096
|The Nurturing Network
910 Main St., Suite 360
P.O. Box 2050
Boise, ID 83701
|Christian Adoption and Family Services
2121 W. Crescent Ave. Suite E
Anaheim, CA 92801
(213) 860-3766, (714) 533-4302
|Women Exploited By Abortion
Rt. 1 Box 821
Venus, IX 76084
|Loving and Caring
1817 Olde Homestead Lane Suite H
Lancaster, PA 17601
You can purchase a listing of local pro-life groups in the-United States and Canada
from International Life Services, 2606 ½ West 8th St., Los Angeles, CA 90057, (213)
Other national organizations that may be able to help you locate resources and/or
|American Life League
P.O. Box 1350
Stafford, VA 22554
|National Right to Life Committee
419 7th St. NW, Suite 500
Washington, DC 20004 (202) 626-8800
|Center for Bio-Ethical Reform
P.O. Box 2483
Corona, CA 91718
|Please Let Me Live
3209 Colusa HWY
Yuba City, CA 95993
|Alliance for Life
B1-90 Garry St.
Winnipeg, MB R3C 4H1
P.O. Box 1180
Binghamton, NY 13902
We strongly recommend that you use the Christian Action Council's community resource
survey to divide up the task of research. Each section in the survey can be assigned to a
different individual so that no one gets overloaded trying to do too much. If your
community has a CAC-affiliated CPC or local chapter, this survey has already been done,
but it might be worth your time to update it.
Step Two: Determine what necessary resources don't exist
Your community may not have everything your church needs to provide comprehensive
services. For instance, if the community doesn't have a crisis pregnancy center where
women can get free pregnancy tests and other vital services, you'll want to commission
some individuals to contact the Christian Action Council to get one started. You are much
better off having a parachurch organization take care of such needs than trying to provide
pregnancy tests through your congregation. Crisis pregnancy centers become the
"backbone" of alternative ministries and are absolutely vital for churches to
carry out their pledge. To start a CPC, contact the Christian Action Council.
Review the checklist of this
guide. Check off those resources that aren't available within your community. Cooperating
congregations can delegate or divide up the development of these missing services.
Note: Sheltering churches will be much more effective if they will work together to
create a community that can actively and comprehensively care for women and couples facing
unwanted pregnancies. For instance, one church might focus on getting a CPC started. A
neighboring congregation would then be free to focus on developing a maternity home. Yet
another could specialize in post-abortion counseling. By cooperating with other
congregations, even very small churches can offer comprehensive ministry and care.
Step Three: Recruit professionals to volunteer their services for free
Encourage Christian doctors, lawyers, counselors, business people, and entrepreneurs to
volunteer a set amount of time to service the sheltering church network. A doctor, for
instance, might be willing to take on one free appointment every other week. A lawyer
could donate three hours a month. Carpenters may be willing to devote some time to work on
women's houses. Store owners could donate needed goods and food. If you can sign up
several doctors and lawyers, for instance, each one may be called on no more (or even
less) than once a month. Almost any professional should be able to handle that.
Step Four: Visit each resource to which you may refer people
It is important to personally verify the services listed by an agency if you intend to
refer women to that agency or ministry. Send someone to interview the director or a
high-level volunteer. Make sure you can cooperate with their philosophy of ministry. If
they list a service, make sure it is offered to your satisfaction.
Step Five: Establish a review committee
Either within your congregation or in conjunction with other congregations, establish a
committee that will meet periodically (bimonthly or quarterly) to review the services
being offered, to address any additional needs that have arisen, and to give general
oversight to the project.
Step Six: Develop a plan of action
Now that all the pieces are together, develop a plan of action. Write out fictional
accounts of women contacting the church, either over the phone (plan A), after church
(plan B), or through another church member (plan C). Using the real names of individuals
who will be involved in the ministry aspect, describe how the call will be handled, who
will be called upon and when, what that person should do, how and when they will approach
the crisis pregnancy center, how information will be shared with (or kept confidential
from) the congregation, and other particulars.
When the church is contacted, the pregnant woman should immediately feel confident that
the church knows what it is doing. This can be accomplished only if the church has
prepared a specific plan of action ahead of time. The woman should leave with more than
hope--she needs assurance that her problem has been prepared for and that there is nothing
the church can't handle. This will keep her from seeking counsel at an abortion clinic
that has a financial interest in this woman's problem.
Step Seven: Adopt a proclamation and use the logo
Using the proclamation on page four as a beginning point, develop a statement that will
be read from the pulpit and carried in the church bulletin at least four times a year (the
church may decide to print it in the bulletin every week). You will need to decide whether
your pledge is to your entire community, or simply your local congregation.
After your pledge is prepared, determine where you will place the logo--on the church
signboard (if making the pledge to the community, this is important, especially if several
churches are involved), a church window, newspaper or yellow page ads, bumper stickers,
and/or the church bulletin.
Step Eight: Educate your congregation (and possibly the community) on what is about to
Explain the logo and proclamation to your church members. Take a few moments and
explain how your church is ready and equipped to meet this important need. Explain why
your church is offering this ministry, and what you hope to accomplish. Encourage them to
use this as an outreach, but also as a ministry to those within the church.
In addition to advertising the offer through church members, you may want to place an
ad in a local paper, or even solicit an interview from a sympathetic reporter. The type of
advertisement you do will depend in part upon whether you want to emphasize this as an
outreach, making the offer to all women in your community, or whether you would prefer to
work just through church members.
It is recommended that once you make the pledge, the proclamation should be repeated at
least four times a year. The reason for this is to remind church members and inform
newcomers that your congregation stands ready to help with practical and spiritual needs.
Also, repetition increases the opportunity of making this offer directly to a woman who
has just discovered, or is about to discover, that she is pregnant. Anticipating
pregnancies is part of the proactive agenda of the sheltering church movement.
Step Nine: Register as a Sheltering Church
A form (also in
the back of this manual) can be completed and returned to the Sheltering Church Movement.
In time, you will receive regular newsletters keeping you up to date on sheltering church
ministries. By registering, you are also enabling the SCM to serve as a network conduit,
bringing together Christians and churches who are working for the same ends in the same
Step Ten: Give back
The local CPC will soon become a crucial ally in your ministry to pregnant women. These
local centers often work on extremely tight budgets. Consider adopting a "3 percent
pledge." That is, 3 percent of your church members will volunteer with the local CPC,
or in a direct role as a liaison between the CPC and your church. Also consider increasing
your monthly financial support so that the CPC can continue to minister with you to women
facing unplanned pregnancies.
Ideally, the Sheltering Churches in your area will have access to the following
1. Effective Counseling
Either the pastor or a trained layperson within the congregation should be specially
equipped to handle a crisis pregnancy. A crisis pregnancy is urgent and has specific
problems not found in other counseling situations. Because of this it is necessary to have
at least one or two individuals (and preferably three or four) who are qualified and
trained to counsel in this specific situation. If your area has a CPC, much of the
counseling can take place there, but you will still need to train some individuals who
will first talk with the woman and then bring her to the CPC. Every person who will have
direct contact with the pregnant women should go through CPC volunteer training.
In addition to basic counseling, the woman may require help in approaching her:
The woman should not be left alone in these cases of difficult communication.
2. Pregnancy Testing
If a woman just suspects that she is pregnant, a pregnancy test is called for. This
type of work is best handled through a local CPC. Again, a lay person from the church
should accompany the woman to the CPC and await the results with her, provided this is
what the woman wants.
3. Maternity Homes/Sheltering Homes
Some women may require short-term or long-term housing. The two options are maternity
homes and sheltering homes. A maternity home houses several pregnant women with one couple
in~charge. A sheltering home is a home in which a family or married couple invites one
pregnant woman to live with them. Both options service different needs, but both require
training. (Loving and Caring provides excellent information on maternity homes and
sheltering homes. Their address is listed on page 9.)
4. Practical Needs
The woman may also require help with food, maternity clothing, and baby items. These
can be provided on an as-needed basis. It is usually preferable for churches to support
the local CPC's clothing bank rather than set up separate banks of their own (but if a
church uses a CPC's services regularly, it should make sure it does not deplete the CPC
resources without replenishing them).
Helpful instruction will include childbirth classes, parenting classes, and Bible
training. Women will need help getting through the birth and then need practical parenting
skills if they choose to keep their babies. Of course, practical Bible training will
become essential as they begin new families and, hopefully, new lives of faith. Bible
training may be done through existing adult Sunday School programs; parenting and
childbirth classes are often sponsored by local CPCs. (Incentive programs have been
developed to encourage women to receive Bible training and lifestyle counseling, which
becomes essential to parenting a child and living a new life of faith. Contact the CAC for
6. Professional Resources
Certain needs may, in some instances, require the attention of volunteer professionals.
Physicians can be urged to volunteer one free appointment every other week, or perhaps one
hour per week Lawyers and other professionals can contribute as well. Professional
opportunities may include physical examinations, psychological care, and vocational
counseling. If the child -was conceived out of wedlock, an obvious need for pastoral care
exists. Lawyers can help with adoption or foster placement. If enough doctors cannot
volunteer their time, even after being personally approached by their pastor, the church
may want to consider reimbursing a doctor (perhaps on a cost-reduced basis) out of church
(Note: The free offer is important, but it should not be understood as unconditional
welfare. In many cases, perhaps most, the parents of the pregnant woman will want to help
out and/or pay for the entire cost. Other single women, no longer living with their
parents, may simply need care and concern, not free resources. But for those who are truly
in need, the free offer is important.)
Handbook Section B:
Ministry for Women After Crisis
A potential criticism of the sheltering church movement is that churches are concerned
with children only from conception until birth. This is certainly not true, but it is
often how outsiders perceive ministers and ministries that affirm life. The
misunderstanding no doubt arises from the church's mission, which can seem contradictory
to the uninitiated. The church is charged not only with providing ministry, but also with
speaking the truth--including the truth that God's ideal plan is for a man and woman to
get married before they engage in sexual relations and bear children. Any time this ideal
plan is violated, greater stress will result.
The church cannot remove this stress completely. People who walk outside of God's
perfect plan will bear the consequences of that behavior. However, the church can seek to
show compassion and forgiveness, as Christ showed compassion to the woman at the well.
Christ didn't wipe out the painful consequences of the woman's sinful past, but he did,
through ministry, seek to make those consequences a little easier to bear.
Therefore, while not condoning the behavior that leads to a less than ideal situation,
a church can and should provide ministry alternatives to pregnant women that supports
mothers not only through birth, but past birth into single parenthood. Such a ministry
provides the church with the opportunity to show the mercy and grace inherent in the
Gospel, leading to repentance, forgiveness, and eternal life. By using the skills and
abilities of its members, the church can provide comprehensive and practical care for
women who have given birth and still need some assistance.
A few may object that this ministry will increase single parenthood, but we believe it
will do so only to the extent that ministry to alcoholics would increase alcoholism, or
ministry to gossips would increase gossip--in other words, not at all. The church serves
women in two ways: By fearlessly preaching the truth that God's word and plan, including
His plan for our sexuality, should be followed and obeyed; and by providing ministry and
grace leading to repentance and restoration when Christians among us fail and when
non-Christians come to the truth. Both aspects of care are essential to a well-rounded
It could be argued that ministry to single mothers will encourage more people to live
according to God's ideal plan. When Christians see first-hand the struggles of raising
children on one's own, they may think twice before they engage in behavior that could
place them in a similar situation.
The following ministries are offered as suggestions. If your church has used some
others, please write out a description and send it to the Christian Action Council. We
would be delighted to pass the idea along.
One of the greatest burdens for single mothers is the upkeep and maintenance of
automobiles. The automobile has become an expensive necessity in many communities. Not
only is it difficult for many single mothers to save sufficient funds to buy an
automobile, it is also difficult for them to pay for costly repairs. Frequently, the
single mother will go into debt when she buys the car, and then into further debt when the
car needs to be repaired. Indeed, automobile repairs are often the most frequent
contributor to credit card debt. A tight, one income budget often has no room for
unexpected and costly repairs.
The church can meet this need with a minimum amount of time expended and virtually no
dollar cost. The greatest expense in automobile repair is almost always the labor. By
encouraging twelve volunteers to take part in this ministry, each one agreeing to give up
just four Saturdays a year, the church can provide a monthly "car clinic" with
four mechanics where single mothers can get their cars repaired for free, paying only for
the automobile parts that need to be replaced. These volunteers need not be professional
mechanics. Nobody should do work of which they are unsure, but many people can perform the
basic auto care that would be required in most instances, leaving the more technical
repairs to the few in~the church who are most highly trained.
How It works
Once a month, several volunteers from the church meet in the church parking lot on a
Saturday morning. Single mothers bring in their vehicles and get them worked on for free--
all the mothers pay for is automobile parts. (Through a deacons' or benevolence fund, the
church may opt to pay for some car parts; however, it is usually the labor that makes
bills so high and inaccessible for single mothers.)
Some of the work may be simple maintenance, such as changing the oil, replacing the
spark plugs, or performing a tune-up. Major work should be done by appointment, perhaps at
a member's garage where the necessary tools would be more readily available.
While the mothers have their cars worked on, the church has many opportunities for
ministry. This is an excellent time to hold a single mothers' support group, where single
mothers can pray and encourage one another while their cars are being worked on. Old
Vacation Bible School materials can be pulled out of storage to keep the children occupied
in another room. If the church is making the offer to women outside of the church,
evangelistic Christian videos or Bible studies can be used.
A Possible "Payment" Plan
As a "payment" for this service, the church may want to require women who are
not official members to attend at least three church services. The following pledge card
can be used to convey this message. (The church may opt to use language that encourages
attendance rather than requires attendance.)
First Church Car Repair Ministry
We realize, however, that single mothers need more than physical
care. You also need; spiritual sustenance. Raising a family requires great wisdom,
encouragement, support, and advice. Our church stands ready to provide not only physical
needs, but spiritual care as well because we believe spiritual care is as vital a need as
Therefore, we ask that each woman getting her car worked on
agree to attend at least three worship services within the next five to six week. Of
course, we hope that you will decide to become a part of our body and worship with us
regularly. A three-week introduction should be enough to acquaint you with our
ministry and make you familiar with he advantages of raising a family with the support of
a Christian church.
By signing below, you agree that you will attend at least three
church services in the next five to six weeks. No financial liability for the
car repairs, of course, will ever be entailed should you break this pledge; we are simply
asking you to commit to this for your own spiritual enrichment.
If just twelve volunteers signed up for this ministry, they would need to work just
four days a year to perform a vital service to the single women in their congregation.
Twelve members, each working four Saturdays a year, would provide four mechanics
once a month-- all at little sacrifice and no financial obligation. If only eight church
members sign up, just six days a year commitment would be required.
Those who are unable to perform mechanical work can still participate by being
available to drive to the auto-parts store to purchase parts, or to shuttle the mothers
back and forth from the church to their homes; to provide lunches and drinks for those
doing the work; and to help with general clean-up and administration, leaving the
mechanics free to work. If the church chooses to provide the additional services mentioned
earlier, group leaders and children's teachers would be required.
A Vital Free Service
Without incurring any financial obligation, the church can provide a vital service to
single mothers. The minimal commitment of four Saturdays a year should make it easier to
recruit mechanics. It's very likely that some mechanics will want to volunteer much more
often than this. They can also train those who are willing to work but need experience to
be of much help.
The beauty of this ministry is that professional or amateur mechanics can play a vital
role in the pro-life movement without carrying a picket sign or marching in protest.
Simply by using the skills that God has given them, and for just four Saturdays a year,
they can make it easier for a woman to choose life for her unborn baby.
This is another program that requires little or no expense, only time and volunteers. A
Mom's Night Out Outreach makes available a basic children's Sunday School ministry format
when single mothers can use it most--a workday evening.
One night a week, or perhaps one night a month (depending on church resources), the
church opens up its building to single mothers who need a night off. The children are
divided into traditional Sunday School age groupings, and the mothers are free for two
hours. If enough adults aren't available to hold Sunday School, a Bible video or puppet
show can keep large groups busy for the two hours necessary. The church may also choose to
organize activities such as Awana, Pioneer Girls, or other youth programs that would fit
within this time frame.
The hours can be arranged according to the community, but it is usually better to go
earlier rather than later, especially if many young children arrive. The preferred time
period would be 6:00 to 8:00 PM.
One of the most frequent struggles expressed by single mothers is that their male
children lack an adult, male role model. There are two ways to meet this need. The first
is to organize a "big brother" program on a church-wide basis, encouraging men
in the church to "adopt" boys of single mothers, taking them out once or twice a
month. This is a rather informal, one to one approach that requires little church
administrative time (except for a very careful screening).
Another option is to organize regular "Guys' Groups." These are times when
just the men of the church get together, and younger boys are welcome. The activities
could span the spectrum of church yardwork parties to group attendance at a baseball game.
The idea is to provide opportunities for young boys to see Christian men in action. The
group format allows greater opportunities for men to bring their own sons, and to provide
a collegial, group atmosphere. Depending on the size of the church, "Guys'
Groups" can be divided into certain age categories, such as elementary school age,
young adolescents, and older teens. Youth groups and Sunday School classes can meet many
of these age needs, but Guys' Groups provide a powerful reinforcement for young males.